2010年3月30日星期二

Newly Divorced and Surviving the Holidays

make plan to get away.Inflatable Ball Jumper for sale I rememb a time when I wa brand new in NYC and New Year s wa loom like a black cloud. I made last minut plan to go awai to a health spa for a few dai and it wa wonderful. I met great peopl and made life long friends. Dure these tough econom time that might not be an option for you but that doe not mean you can t find an alternativeIf you can afford it..

thi might be the first time around as a new unit,The Holidai ar upon us onc again and for mani of you. I.E. without your ex. It s a difficult time, no doubt about it, and just anoth step in the transit into a new life after divorce. If you plan for thi season you can make it easier on yourself.

anger whatever. Go easi on yourself. Take good care of yourself and give yourself as much nurtur as you can muster. If you had a friend who wa in your shoes,Emotion mai overwhelm you right now. Know that you will have major bout of sadness. how would you treat her? With love and compassion? I think so.

do thing differ now that your life is differentGet in touch with the thing that you know lift your mood and stai awai from anyth that upset or sadden you. So if trim the tree with old ornament make you sad don t. Go out and get new on or sit with the kid and make them yourselves. Again..

Do the thing that make you feel better. If you had no oblig and no limit what activ would you engag in to make yourself happy? Would you go to the theater? Spend the dai at the museum? Get a massag and facial? Go hiking?

Watch out for expectations. There is so much pressur to have the most wonder time of your life dure the holidays. Unrealist and unachiev expect set us up for disappoint and resentment. Accept the difficulti of thi time of year and your loss.

and what you aren t. Don t let other guilt you into take on more than you can handle. Learn to sai no as it will defin you. Also learn to sai ye to the thing that will make you feel betterSET BOUNDA RIES – Explain to your famili and friend what you ar capabl of do thi year..

ensur that you have somewher to go on the dai that the kid ar with your ex. I have in the past even invit myself to a good friend s home and thei welcom me with open arms. Remember,Mak certain that you do not isol yourself. If you ar share the kids. everyon is busi dure thi season and sometim thei just need a friendli reminder. Get out of the house. Your pain and depress mai tempt you to lock yourself awai but forc yourself to go out even if it s onli for a short time. Look into a divorc support group in your area. Thei help tremendously.

clergyperson,Seek Support – Have the phone number of your counselor. life coach, close friend or hotlin tape to your phone. Call someon when you ar feel realli low. No on said you had to go it alone.

Cut yourself some slack.Inflatable Circle Bouncer for sale Don t go crazi thi year shop and cook and whatev if you can help it.

yoga and meditation. These ar scientif proven wai to combat the neg effect of stress on your mind and bodyDon t forget all the stress and depress busters: exercise..

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